You will be a failure, until you impress the subconscious with the conviction you are a success. This is done by making an affirmation which “clicks.”
Florence Scovel Shinn
I’m a bit of a worrier at times.
Who am I kidding, I’ve made worrying into an art form.
I don’t know about you, but my mind’s favourite time to worry is the middle of the night. Apparently there is something about darkness and quiet that is perfect for turning a small problem into a big one or a random negative thought into calamity that could occur at any moment.
It’s not just the big stuff that keeps me awake at night, I sweat the small stuff. The really small stuff. I’ve stayed awake for hours wondering whether I addressed an email to someone appropriately. (I’m not kidding, I didn’t know the person and started with “Hi so-and-so” instead of “Dear so-and-so” or just “So-and-so.” And worried I had been too familiar.) Sad, I know.
During the day I usually keep my confidence up fairly well. I’ve learned how to face my fears and keep moving.
But the middle of the night is a different story. Negative thoughts whirl around in my head, gathering speed and refusing to be calmed. These thoughts are often nonsensical, but using logic on them doesn’t always send them away. In short, they keep me awake.
Affirmations in the Middle of the Night
This midnight worrying isn’t new to me but with my recent decision to pursue freelance writing as a career, and the resulting lack of sleep, I decided to try something new and I created affirmations to counter my late night negative self talk.
When I wake up and the negativity begins, I start saying my affirmations to myself over and over.
The affirmation is simple, “I am a successful writer.”
While I am thinking this phrase, I am also trying to feel it in my heart while visualizing aspects of what this success might look like. I picture myself happily typing away on my laptop, or opening the mail to find a cheque from a client or something equally up-beat.
My theory is two-fold:
- You should counter negative self talk with positive statements when you notice them, and affirmations are a great way to do this.
- Affirmations have the most power to change how we think and act when they’re repeated often. So why not use my wide-awake-in-the-middle-of-the-night time to get in several more repetition?
I’ve been practicing this for several weeks, and while the long-term effects of using these affirmations remain to be seen, I can tell you two things:
- Repeating these affirmations and visualizations does calm my night-time fears.
- Repeating the same phrases over and over quickly gets boring and puts me to sleep.
In the past I might have been awake for hours with all of my fears and possible reasons for failure galloping through my head. But it seems that I can’t spend more than a few minutes repeating my affirmations to myself before I’m asleep.
I’m happy with that result. No, I’m more than happy, I’m thrilled!
I’d love to hear what do you do to get back to sleep when your mind starts racing in the middle of the night, so please share your techniques in the comments below.
Here are some thoughts about affirmations from other smart people:
- Affirmations: Why Are They so Powerful There are some good examples of affirmations in this article.
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